Nobody's Perfect

 

You're going to make mistakes.

You're going to do stupid things.

You're going to do poorly on a homework assignment or a paper or an exam.

You're going to wake up some mornings and pull the pillow over your
head as a wave of "I can't believe I ...[you fill in the blank]" washes over you and you wish you could undo whatever you did.

You're going to lose your calculus book or break your ipod or leave the
sweater you borrowed from your roommate in a restaurant booth or out in the rain.

You're going to find yourself in situations where the difference between
right and wrong is unclear and despite your best intentions you're going to make the wrong choice.

You're going to find yourself in situations where you have to choose between doing something that you know is right and doing something that you know is wrong and you're going to do the wrong thing.

I know that lots of you are reading this right now and you're saying to yourselves, "Not me! I won't do those things."

But you're wrong. You will. And that is precisely the point.

Nobody plans on making mistakes. Nobody wants to screw up or get a bad grade or do something embarrassing. Nobody goes out on a Friday night thinking to themselves, "I'm going to seek out an ethical dilemma tonight and I'm gonna to do the wrong thing!"

But it ends up happening anyway. And it's okay.

You're supposed to make mistakes. If you don't make mistakes you're not
trying hard enough.  If you don't make mistakes you won't learn what you
need to learn. Making mistakes is part of college because making mistakes is
part of life. And ultimately, it's not making mistakes that matters. What
matters is what you do after you make mistakes.

When you make a mistake, own it. Take responsibility. If you hurt someone or
something, apologize. If you break something, fix it or pay for it. If you get a bad grade, go talk to the professor, get extra help, and do better the next time.

When you make a mistake, learn from it.  And try not to make the same mistake twice.

You're going to make mistakes. It's okay. Everyone does.

Jim Terhune
Dean of Students